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       When I was younger, I used to play this game in my mind,
      whenever I got introduced to a person, I instantly judged them according to their name, depending on whom I knew from before bearing the same name: so for instance if I
      knew a certain Jennifer who was slutty or arrogant etc and my friend says,
      "meet my friend Jennifer.." in my mind I'd be like " hello
      slut or arrogant cow etc" before I smiled and said, "nice to meet you Jennifer"
      and etc. 

         Then I guess we could say I was immature and a silly
      kid  and also that the game went a bit (well maybe more than a bit) over the top, just this afternoon,I put this old childish habit of
      mine and the never dying habit of societal stereotyping side and side. Guess what? They fit perfectly(except for the judging according to name part though).They're practically the same thing. So most of us
      see a spoilt/disrespectful  kid, for instance and , "aah what an irresponsible mum" comes
      to mind_ forgetting the father on this one. A student gets an F
      and, "ooh what a dunce" pops up in mind without  pausing to consider whether the
      teacher could be at fault or maybe this is not just the right subject/discipline for
      this student. I could go on and on about examples of societal
      stereotyping and how shamefully people act on them. Wait a minute, stereotyping contributes alot in racism too( it's not rocket science). You know that kind of, "hey I'm black so I'm definitely dangerous", "hey I'm white and I'm all about superiority and racism" kina feeling? Like you're being cornered and everyone's pointing at you and sayin awful stuffs. That's almost exactly the position we place someone_ anyone we judge.  It's like
      being judged  even before appearing in court. It's not
      surprising then when someone you do not know from Adam, makes
      a statement like, "hmn that girl's a snub and she doesn't
      even possess any distinguishing quality.." Really? People
      forget though that in as much as an individual tries, there's
      always a second side to every coin, no matter how
      faint. Best get acquainted and know more about people, I vote. That tattooed person who sells or does crack could actually be the most honest,generous etc person you'd ever know.

         Just as I dropped that childish habit of mine,
      isn't it advisable for us to drop this
      judgy-urh-It's-a-fixed-character-and-can-never-change-so-I-have-to-judge-you-already kinda
      attitude towards people? And guess what? we judge things too,
      "err I heard this school sucks", "this restaurant serves awful meals" and all.#shrugs, gee I'm guilty of this one.

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there's some beauty in darkness:
something interesting about
the way the air would heavily light
an irony of perfect juxtaposition. there's some beauty in ugly:
something intriguing about the
huge grotesque scars that
seem to never want to go away. there's some beauty in evil:
un peu de la purité in
the heart of a condemned man,
an innocence buried beneath a blanket of
bottled up emotions. these little beauties we
choose to neglect
aren't they the very things that
make living bearable? who would be good without the existence
of evil?
who would be beautiful without ugliness?
or what story could ever be told without scars? need beauty and ugliness,
need scars and healing oils,
need good and evil,
need all the balance to remain
steady and sane in this
crazy crazy world. need balance:
then imbalance to
balance the human equation
now and again.