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I Am A Woman

"you are to keep
your eyes down, "
they said. 
at all times
you are to 
it's easier,
you're a woman. 


make sure not to
sit among men
it's uncomfortable for you,
too complicated. 
don't you know you're
a woman? 

pick that broom up.
now bend really well
make sure you sweep thoroughly.
don't you know you're a woman?


if he tells you you're dumb
you probably are.
ssh my child,
your husband is never wrong
you need to know your place,
you are a woman. 

a boy beat you up?
what where you doing fighting with
him! a boy!
oh heavens she doesn't
seem to know
she's but a woman. 

now listen my dear child.
be very successful
but in chasing success
also be careful.
do not outdo yourself.
you have to be second best
men are not attracted
to ridiculously successful women
you know you're a woman right?
and you need to find a husband
before you clock 26!"

bow my head,
learn to keep a home,
nod yes to every word,
avoid men,
catch the eye of a potential husband
before 26,
agree to his every will
and never for once argue my opinion,
take his beatings,
smile and compliment his mistakes. 

thank you society
for reminding me; 

i am a woman.
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