Skip to main content

I'm a Buffer Girl pour l'Amour

I’ve always known true love exists; always and convincingly known. 

And while it might sound more intellectually aesthetic that this deeply found enthusiasm for love sprung from watching a real-life couple, the reality is in fact that it didn’t.

Romantic novels and movies have over the years harboured in us false expectations of the men in our lives.

Think about it, the reason why you’d insist (even to your mind) that a potential partner should possess certain athletic features or financial capabilities is somewhat triggered by the thoughts of some romantic novel you’ve either recently delved in or love.

When, however, life shoves at us our real-life partners sometimes a disappointing feeling comes with the package. This disappointment might not be full-blown but without denying it somehow just lurks at the corner.

So yes, truthfully, I have always been fully convinced true love exists. And also while this sense of certainty would be triggered by romantic novels and movies I watched and read, I somehow drew the realness and realistic expectations of true love into my reality.

While I subconsciously was aware that quite possibly I could find true love in real life, I never quite experienced it as early on in life as I hoped I would.

The females in my romance novels and movies where sometimes in their late teens and early twenties and somehow, I expected this for myself.

I had totally forgotten that these amorous histoires were plotted in pre-modern times, different geographical and cultural settings and also purely fiction.

I would realize these things very late: in my final year at Uni.

But also, I’d read two of Chimamanda Adichie’s novels; Half of a Yellow Sun and Americanah. While I loved the two novels, it was the latter that’d intrigue me more.

série un et deux
series one and two

follow my Instagram @graceokogwu for série trois (three) on Monday

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog


If you have been curious about improving your leadership skills or joining the best student extra curriculum organisation eveer! then you're in luck because AIESEC is interested in YOU. Quickly go through these reasons to join AIESEC today.1. Go on a work abroad experience, develop your leadership skills.2.Network and meet new people in your university, around Nigeria and in 110 countries we are present in.3. Be a part of a network of ambitious and talented AIESEC leaders around the world and utilize this network for the rest of your life.4. Get the opportunity to travel to different places through the various conferences within and outside Nigeria.5. Find a suitable Mentor who can guide you through your career decisions and many life experiences.6. Cultivate a global mindset and develop entrepreneurial outlook in a flexible and customizable work environment.7. Increase awareness on things outside your text book through practical international experience and on the job learning.8.…

September 23, Age 23

I have been called a lot of things; ‘weird’, ‘real’, ‘cynical’, ‘kind’, ‘beautiful’, ’impatient’, ‘good’, ‘mean’, ‘free’ and ‘quiet’. 
There’s a lot more, but that’d take up a lot of space (bet you get the idea).
And over the years, while some of these things momentarily defined me, might still try to even, I know that is not the case. This is because I have gradually come to the understanding that people will just drop words or phrases of who they think you are. Or better still who they might want you to be, to them_ I don’t know why humans do this, but we do.

No denying some of those words make up the person that I am but in my gradual process of self-awareness and understanding I have learnt so far that I cannot dwell on those adjectives to determine who I am.

Of course, this might come as a string of blah blahs and yapping, but I have had myself, my body and soul for 23 years and I can say boldly that no one has the right to define me or anyone else for that matter.

This is not t…